The art of noticing.

The art of noticing is getting out of our heads, off our devices and paying attention to the physical world around us.

When was the last time you noticed someone wearing something new, perhaps a new pair of glasses, and gave them a compliment?  How about when you saw someone do something kind, perhaps helping an elderly neighbor, did you say something?

When asked, almost 90% of people believe we should compliment each other more, however when given the opportunity, less than 50% act on it.  Most forgo making another person feel seen, appreciated and valued because… they are afraid to make the other person feel uncomfortable, awkward or even offend them.   

However, studies show that these worries are unfounded.  In fact, receiving a compliment brightens people’s day much more than the compliment-giver anticipates, making the compliment-receiver feel better and more positive, not uncomfortable, awkward or offended.

Paying and receiving compliments, much like showing and receiving appreciation, has a mood-lifting effect and contributes to human well-being.  These gestures have a very positive impact on human connection in an organization or community. 

So, the next time you notice something positive about someone – their appearance, their behavior, their actions, their personal traits, their abilities, etc. – give them a warm and sincere compliment.  You will feel better for it, and you may even see them pay the kindness forward.